How Elder Mediation Can Save Families
Caregiving issues often cause arguments among adult siblings because, after all, it's an emotionally charged issue. Questions like who takes in an elder and whether can they be relied upon to drive are thorny.
Sometimes the disputes get bitter enough to break up families. Is there another answer? Yes— turn to an objective professional, someone to lower the temperature and answer questions to help everyone find common ground. Such a person is called an eldercare, family or adult family mediator.
When successful, a mediator can help avoid costly legal battles and keep families united, or at least on speaking terms. Eldercare mediators can help your family come to a consensus on a care plan. There are many legal implications surrounding an estate — the management of an elderly parent's finances or the work of a trustee. These issues can end up in court — an expensive and time-consuming process that can permanently damage family relationships. A mediator may be able to resolve problems in ways courts cannot, salvaging frayed nerves in an emotional situation.
Mediators endeavor to help family members think in new ways about how to solve problems themselves and get everyone on board. Successful mediation can mean getting families to attack the problem and not each other. Although some families see mediation as a last resort before a court appearance, many have found that early intervention, before tensions get high, is best.
How do you find eldercare mediators? It's always best to get a referral — perhaps from a health professional, hospital social worker, clergy or neighbors. There's an Academy of Professional Family Mediators directory you can peruse.
How can you discover whether the mediator you choose is right for your family? Here are some questions to ask:
While the process may sound like it involves a lot of money and a lot of work, you may find it's worth it to maintain or rebuild family bonds. And having your attorney close at hand for advice wouldn't be a bad idea, either.
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